Friday, June 4, 2010

his part of the marriage.

I've been known to reply to certain questions people ask me with the phrase, "Ask Michael, that's his part of the marriage." There are certain things that, when we made a lifelong commitment to each other, I breathed a sigh of relief because I no longer had to hold complete responsibility for understanding. For example, insurance. Why on earth would I sift through that complicated mess when I married a man who majored business & focused on risk management & insurance (btw - who does that? really?!?). Or the square footage of our house...something I probably knew at one point, but have let it escape my brain to make room for other important things like baby spit, potty training & playdates, so I don't have a clue now. So when things like that come up, he takes the lead. And of course, he leaves some things up to me to take the lead on too. Like education, coupons & blogging. It works well. 
It is quite a balancing act to be married & to be parents. Our babies are just beginning life &a already we're beginning to feeling the rush of scheduling, schooling & shuttling place to place. I'm lucky to have a partner who willingly participates & work schedules that allow that to happen. I'm no expert, but it seems like parenting (& marriage) has to have a give & take, a leader & follower who swap roles depending on the circumstance. The sheer fact that my child asks each morning, "Where we going, mama?" leads me to believe that we're in for a busy next 18 or so years. And I just can't imagine doing it with anyone else.
In any case, one of "his parts of the marriage" involves gardening. In all honesty, I think I'm better at killing flowers, vegetable & most other plants than making them grow. So, I'm lucky to have married a man who knows what to do in the garden. Flowers are in full bloom right now, smelling & looking great. Hopefully, in a few weeks the vegetables & herbs will follow suite...not that I'll take any credit for them! But I will cook them up & blog about the recipes we try out of our own backyard. Here's just a few of the gorgeous flowers in bloom right now.
I can't imagine we don't have room to grow & learn from you. So, tell me, how do you divide up the marriage or parenting responsibilities?


Brooke from The Bluestocking Guide said...

Your husband is an excellent gardener.

Jackie said...

And pretty hot too! :)

JoJo said...

I agree, there are definitely some things in a marriage that should be left up to men. My husband is in charge of the bills and for the most part our finances and what to invest in. He's also in charge of taking out the garbage and cleaning out the gross stuff that accumulates at the bottom of the sink haha.
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Anonymous said...

I think you're as lucky to be married to a great gardener as you are to be married to a great cook. Lucky You ♥

Trisha said...

There's nothing wrong with the "divide and conquer" way of doing things. I for one love having a husband to share the responsibilities with. However, he's not much of a gardener, and since I'm not either, well... Let's just say I hardly have lovely blooms to share. But he does do a bang up job of mowing the lawn, washing the dinner dishes, and keeping our cars maintained!

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Teresa @ ♥ TOO MANY HEARTBEATS ♥ said...

Wow, this is an interesting topic. I've never really thought about it because my hubby can do almost ANYTHING and will. We've been married for almost 20 years and he always jumps right in to almost anything. I guess if truth be told, I'm a lot better with managing the money and he does a jam up job maintaining our home. He can build or fix ANYTHING!

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Gina said...

My husband does all the finances...and the laundry. It is fantastic, especially since my ex didn't do any of that, so I don't take it for granted for a second!

Jessica said...

I wish my husband would do the garden....

mingaling said...

Gorgeous garden!

Brian pretty much deals with money, insurance, yard work, the trash, and cleaning the bathrooms. Yes, I'm that lucky!

Jackie said...

Sounds like the divide & conquer routine fits for a lot of people...good thing.

And, I'm super jealous about bathroom cleaning. That would be heavenly.